Sep 7, 2010
A Note From Writing Addict
So you wanna rock locs huh? Well are you ready for all that comes with it? Can you handle criticism, questions like, "Why do you wear your hair like slaves did back in the day?" Yes I actually got asked that repeatedly! Are you ready for people to argue with you and tell you that you may be undatable, or you will never secure a good job? Well, I have heard it all. If I did not have self-confidence nor self-esteem I wouldn't have locs right now! Especially during my baby twists stage, or the in between stage where the locs were standing all over my head, refusing to be tamed. Shoot, I have a darling hubby, and nice job, and a budding writing career. My locs hasn't had anything to do with it. Its not about the hair its the person, the locs just put the icing on the cake.
What I am saying is that we are living in a world where being superficial, will get you put on faster than being yourself. Where natural beauty is frowned upon, and commercials where to buy the premium 28" Indian Remy hair blasts all over our radio waves! You have to walk tall, when you are rocking the locs! You have to hold your head up and smile curtly, then sweetly at the naysayer, and disbelievers!
You have to ignore the stares from people who just don't get it, or from the non-ethnic people who can't for the life of them understand how your hair "got that way."
Then dating is a whole nother' story. Honey if you don't have a mate who is supportive you have a whole nother' bag of worms to contend with. When I first started rocking the locs a guy I used to date, would continuously tell me how pretty I could be or would be if I would just take those "things" down. Hmph, I looked at him, and sent his ass packing. What are you doing if you are in this situation? Are you allowing someone to dictate how you should wear your hair?
What I am saying is you have to find the power, and strength within you to live your life natural and free. Do not allow anyone to make you feel less just because they are ignorant as hell about hair. Because at the end of the day it is your choice. But don't choose half-assed. Be bold daring and above all be the Queen that you are.
So if you are dealing with ignorance you don't stoop to their level...you just smile sweetly, take a long look at the crown of their head, look them square in the eyes and tell them this is how you choose to wear your hear, that they don't have to like, but they will respect it. Then turn on your heels and switch away!
Stay Blessed & Happy Locing!