As if we don't have to deal with enough...as if we aren't fighting with our "own" over how they portray Black women. As if we aren't fighting with our own women, over how they portray themselves in the limelight and media. We are fighting a battle everyday! For our rightful place. Our rightful place in society, media, love, business, etc.
Black women, these words should not astound nor surprise you. You probalby say, or rap to the words in the above picture everyday. However, do you think about their meaning? Do you understand the implications of your actions?
John Mayer, now I think he is an awesome singer, but a good person? The jury is still out on that, I'm starting to believe he is just another misogynist. Earlier on Twitter, I found myself confused as to why he became a trending topic. That is until I googled his latest shenanigans. Then I found these quotes from his March 2010 Playboy interview:
8. “I am a very…I’m just very. V-E-R-Y. And if you can’t handle very, then I’m a douche bag. But I think the world needs a little very. That’s why black people love me.”
Well, well now we know that John Mayer thinks he has a so-called, "Black pass," and while he will date a Black woman, he will not have sexual relations with them. Really John? This is cool in 2010? You don't have some sort of publiscist to keep you in check while interviewing?9. “My dick is sort of like a white supremacist. I’ve got a Benetton heart and a fuckin’ David Duke cock. I’m going to start dating separately from my dick.”
Now, there will be those of you who don't see the big deal, or hoopla if you will about why these few quotes are bad; becasue after all you don't have sex with men outside of your race. However, are you saying outloud that your vagina is racist? Are you insinuating that there is something wrong with that other race?
On the other hand ( I will play devil's advocate here) everyone has their sexual preference and there is nothing wrong with that. However, when you are in the limelight there are some things you just don't say.
I don't know how you feel about this, but for me, I find it quite disturbing that this douche bag thought it fine to say these things. I am tired, very tired of the media (i.e. Vanity Fair), rappers (i.e. Young Berg), and whoever else who feels it is fine to single out and express their distaste for minorities. We black women take it at heart because we know he is referring to us, not just other minorities other than white. We are sick of it.
Need another reason not to assimilate? Trust me this is one reason on my list.
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